I speak from personal experience as a mother of 3 children who were born in a 5 year span, that I understand the temptation to try to do something without bringing your children along, but hot on the heels of that thought is the vision of all the things that could go wrong. I think the closest I came to it was at a gas station, in which I raced from my vehicle to the cashier inside (this was the 1980s), keeping in line of sight my three, sleeping children. I think I practically threw a $20 dollar bill at the attendant and shouted out the pump number as I ran out the door back to my vehicle.
This is why I can’t understand how events like these occur, in which you forget that your children who are dependent on you, are strapped into a seat and left to slowly suffocate in a vehicle. The only explanation I can think of is to blame it on the subconscious, in which in my experience is so much more powerful than what most people think. In some persons, the subconscious desire, especially if it’s strong enough overcomes fear of consequences, or the moral or ethical dilemmas involved in getting a certain result. It’s so powerful that it overcomes bonding and love for your offspring.
Do I think this man should have been a parent? As far as I am concerned the answer is a resounding no. I am curious to see what the mother will say when she’s interviewed, because the flip side of this equation is the overriding desire to have a child, but choosing the wrong person, who you know from the get go is wrong either because of temperament, or their own admission that they are not ready to be a parent, now or possibly ever.
It’s incidents like the death of these two children, that indicates that our society should come to grips with the idea that a choice of not having children, either as a man or woman, is perfectly OK, because the alternative is people having children who deep down inside do not want them.
Read this very interesting article published by Scientific Monthly in 2015 about the new choices that are evolving about the desire to become a parent, or not.